My 5 Love Languages (How I Justify My Sarcastic Nature)

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There is a book written by Gary Chapman called “The 5 Love Languages”. In it he describes how people show love and feel love differently. For example someone may show they love you by giving you a gift and they may feel loved when you say something nice about them. Chapman’s 5 love languages are; Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time and Physical Touch.

Here are my 5 love languages:

Sarcasm – Sarcasm is defined as a) a sharp and often satirical or ironic utterance designed to cut or give pain or b) a mode of satirical wit depending for its effect on bitter, caustic, and often ironic language that is usually directed against an individual. To me being sarcastic is like sweet music to my ears. If I make a sarcastic comment to you it’s because I love and if you’re able to turn that around and retort back with one of your own I will love you forever.

The Complisult – 1 part compliment, 1 part insult, perhaps better known as a backhanded compliment. It’s when you disguise a negative comment about someone or a character trait of someone as a compliment. For example “You’re smart to do your laundry on Saturday night, when everyone else is out” or “That’s a beautiful dress. It really makes you look thin”. If I’ve given you a complisult before I apologize, but it’s only because I love you. Well usually.

Personal Space – As an introvert it is essential that I have time to myself in order to recharge. It’s not meant to be an insult if I tell you to get away from me or that I don’t want to spend time with you. I just need some space. If you really love me you’ll leave me alone so that the next time we’re together it’s legend…give me a minute alone…dary.

Silence – My friend Alec says that I know enough about most things that I could have a conversation with anyone and not look out of place. Other than the time I asked a crop specialist how I could get the nightshade out of my canola field, I think he’s right. But there are times when I just don’t feel like talking and there is no place for me to hide. I’ve found that I can talk to anyone, but when we’ve talked about everything we can and we can still be together without having to say a word to each other, those are the people that I love the most.

Embarrassing Moments – If I really love you, in some form or another I have embarrassed you. Whether it’s wearing a napkin as a headband, using a megaphone to ask how your diarrhea is or posing as someone or something that I’m not, I’m probably one of the most embarrassing people you know. The irony of it, is that I hate when someone embarrasses me.

How do you show love?

 

 

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